(I wrote this 3 years ago, but still feel it is still relevant today)
“How often in our daily lives had we put conditions on our happiness? When we get the house paid off, then we can be happy. When things settle down with the kids, then we’ll be able to do more together. There is so little joy for the here and now in the uncertainties of the whens and thens.”
– Jeannie Lancaster (Chicken Soup for the Soul)
This resonated with me more than I thought.
Once I graduate, I can get a job and be happy.
I can get married and be happy.
I can have kids and be happy.
We wait until particular milestones and assume that those milestones would equal happiness.
I graduated from college in December 2013 and for a very long time, I had high expectations for my special day. I wanted everything to be perfect.
The moment came and gone… just like that.
We put a lot of pressure on those “high” points, whether it’s graduation, getting married, having kinds, getting a new job, etc. It’s our highlight reel.
But it’s very easy to forget… the behind the scenes story.
The story line that shows those sleep deprived nights in college, the nights falling asleep studying, the moments with friends when you probably should have been studying lol.
We wait until that “highlight” to celebrate. Why put so much pressure on that moment?
We shouldn’t forget to celebrate that good grade on that quiz, we shouldn’t forget to celebrate the hard work coming, we shouldn’t forget to celebrate the smaller moments.
We shouldn’t wait until the highlight.
We shouldn’t wait for the “perfect” moment, because why wait? Life is short.
We are so concentrated on societal milestones that display our current status that we fail to do it for our own happiness.
I have that problem. I’m working on it. I cannot spend my time having my life depend on someone else’s views. we give SO MUCH value to someone else’s opinion, but we forget our own.
You are important.
Your views matter too, you are no less than that “other” opinion.